From Mrs to Mommy: Hello Baby, can you hear us?!?

Myday: Priority Seat and Pregnancy Badge

Yeah, like many other countries around the world, Singapore has introduced this priority seats on mrt/train. In some countries, most people will try to avoid and sit at the priority seats so it will be always available to those who need it ( elderly, injured, pregnant women, small children and families with small children)

So does it mean that you won't give up your seat to those who need it if you are sitting on general seat? And indirectly the people who sit in priority seats is the only person who suppose to give up their seats.

There's a lot of cases happened in Singapore just because of this priority seats. Some people die die also don't want to give up their seat because they think that they pay for the ticket so WHY SHOULD they give up their seat.

In my opinion I think everyone should give up their seats inregardless where you sit for those who need it the most.

Haha...I didn't say that just because now I'm one of those who need it. Sometimes, I'm the one who gave up my seat to those elderly because unfortunately the rest of seated passengers were either suddenly fainted, eye-blurry or sleeping. Haiz...well they paid for the train tickets so AGAIN WHY SHOULD they give up their seat lol.

Sometimes as one of those needy person, we need to know how to feel gratitude and say thanks to people who hv gave up their seat for us. I know some of those needy person are very rude, never say thank you and very Ya-Ya and acted like he/she MUST give up their seat for him/her.

How true is it??? I personal doubt it :P
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Pregnancy/Maternity badge in Japan

I think Singapore need this pregnancy/maternity badge, so all pregnant women can proudly hang their badge either in their handbag or wear it. (I WANT ITTTT hahahah)

Cause most of the time you can't tell especially in the first and second trimester (and rude to ask) IF she is pregnant or having a bloated belly or maybe ate too much :P hahaha

How to survive (protect your babybump) in a packed mrt/train or bus

Nowadays, many buses and Mrt tend to be packed anytime, anyday and anyhour. Some people will know how to queue and stand aside to let other people's out first but some people bo chap (don't care). They won't queue, they stand in the middle of the door.

Yesterday, I did experience for 3 things in 1 journey home from work (PISS OFF!!!!)

1. The guy who stand behind me on the queueing line keep pushing me with his bag while the Mrt door wasn't fully opened and even the passenger inside hadn't alight yet. I turned around and gave him WTF face but seems like he didn't care (he is an executive staff from his office attire)

2. When I went in, the mrt was in a very packed conditions ( I stand close to the door like that pink color shirt lady in the pic). Suddenly two students using her backpacked-bag try to squeeze in and swing her bag towards my babybump. Fortunately, I put my hands on my belly and I pushed her bag and said "excuse me" and again she only say sorry but still keep try to squeeze-in and feel bo chap (don't care). Along the journey, she keep swinging her hand up and down cause she was playing with her mobile. I was very afraid that her elbow will hit my bump so I kept my hands around my belly and kept watching her stupid swinging hand)

3. For the second time, I was being pushed again from behind by this rushing middle-age uncle inside the up-escalator. Again gave him WTF face...

These all are what I think of in order to protect my babybump hahah, hubby always ask me to buy the baby bath-tub and hang it over my neck to protect the lil one lol...

Any good idea to share???

How to protect your babybump inside packed Mrt/train/bus from inconsiderate people.
1. Baby bath tub 2. Big Frypan 3. Float 4. Umbrella Hang it around your neck ❤

From Mrs to Mommy: Our 3rd Babymoon @ Singapore

I'm so blessed....I had my 3rd babymoon last weekend...

Never imagine that my husband will give me a surprise weekend getaway for babymoon relaxing plus celebrating my super advance birthday ahahhaha....(yeah...tho too early but still I'm so happy :)

We stayed at Marina Bay Sands for 1night...

Our hotel room

While waiting for our room to be ready, we went to enjoy the pool first. They gave us the room at around 6pm so they allowed us to do the late check out around 1.30pm the next day.

Enjoying the infinity pool

Enjoying the HOT jacuzzi in the middle of the HOT day lol 

The Lifeguard

The lady counter staff who served us is a very nice lady, she offered us a better room which was at level 39 with the Garden by the Bay view from our tiny balcony room :)

Our dinner was at Pizzeria Mozza 

In-room DIY breakfast

As this lazy hubby wanted to wake up late, so I went downstairs and bought some croissants and cakes and make our own coffee and tea for our DIY in-room breakfast

Hubby loves the coffee éclair (SGD7) from SweetSpot Patisserie, and I love the chocolate cake (dunno what does it call).And the croissant tastes nice and crispy as well. I didn't try their macaroon cause I don't like macaroon (please excuse me hehehe...)

For sure I will going back there to try their signature cake Chocolate Paradigm 

SweetSpot Patisserie @MBS

We went to the infinity pool for 2 days.... and lucky us...the rain stopped at around 3 pm after raining for the whole morning on Sunday (I thought that we can't enjoy swimming on Sunday due to heavy rain...but thanks God hehehe)

Watching Running Man while waiting for the rain stopped on Sunday morning

Overall, We love to stay at MBS, all the staffs are very good and welcome you, only one person the lifeguard, Travis who really know how to ruin our babymoon ;(

Recipe: Grilled Salmon with Bacon & Corn relish

Yeah...it's all about salmon...salmon and salmon... lol...cause we bought the whole salmon.

So in order not to become sick of salmon, I need to be a lil creative stealing recipe from internet hahaha...

Grilled Salmon with bacon and corn relish

I did some cheating here, I use the frozen corn kernel instead of fresh corn hahahha....

Enjoy :)

From Mrs to Mommy: Knitting for him

As a keypoh Mommy, I love to do something handmade to my lil one,and crafting is one of my list hehe....so after browsing on the internet, I found Knotty Bicsie. She provide free trial for first knitter like me...and there's no hard selling for you to join her lesson after the free trial. The instructor and also the owner, Ms Betsy is a very cute, bubbly and super friendly instructor. 

Ms.Betsy :)

Ok...ok..back to main topic...

This is my first project and still on going...hahaha...

And this is my second project and also still on going hahaha...keypoh Mommy want to try to make lil love blanket to her lil dear dear haahahah

This how we spent our Saturday night, he worked and I knitted lol

Love blanket that I want to make :)

From Mrs to Mommy: Is it safe to eat durian and ice-cream during pregnancy?

At first, he never ever want to let me eat ice-cream, cold drinks during my pregnancy. Sometimes I really craving for them, cause during pregnancy, our body temperature is warmer and what I need it something COLDDD and REFRESHINGGGGG.... (oucchhh...it is sound like excuses lol)

We hardly find the correct answers from the internet. There's a pro and cons. And this rebel husband keep insist on his decision while me as a notty mom2be always love to eat n drink them (not soft drink) secretly hahahahaha....

So I decided to ask my gynaecology,on my last appointment with him (of course in front of him)...

Me: Doctor, Can I ask you something? Is it OK for pregnant woman eat ice-cream?

Doctor: OK...I know a lot of people ask you not to but just be logic and think about it by yourself. What is your body temperature? around 37C right?! so whenever you drink a cold or hot water, our body will automatically adjust that cold drinks or ice cream or hot drinks become our body temperature so not to worry about that.

Me: So how about durian?

Doctor: Durian? hm... as long as moderate like two seeds a day should be okay but not for pregnant mums with gestational diabetes. Durian is a high-calorie plus high sugar fruits so imagine if a pregnant woman eats a lot of durian (147 calories in 100 grams) which make her fat with high sugar body, indirectly the baby who live inside her tummy will live in a high sugar environment. And of course that's not good for the baby who use to be live in a high sugar environment from their early stage and do you aware that baby's blood indirectly also contain of high sugar blood. This can lead to high chance of obesity when he/she reach 30 in their ages. 

AHAHAHA... from there onwards, he never complain whenever I have a cold drinks :D

weTalk: His nightmare

One lazy Sunday while we were still inside our cozy blanket...

Mr.Ng: I hate you...

me: *playing with my iphone, fell surprise and turn to his side* what? why?why?

Mr.Ng: I had nightmare...

me: hahaha...what nightmare? ghost?

Mr.Ng: No la...you lah...

me: what? why me?

Mr.Ng: I don't know...can't remember the exact dream, but in conclusion you were so intimate with other people in front of me..damn it...

me: HAHAHAHAH...then why you never scold me inside your dream? HAHAHAHA...poor dear dear *rub rub his head* No worries...only a dream what...in reality, I won't do that...only having affair behind you HAHAHA..joking joking...

Mr.Ng: *give me a sarcastic looked*

Sharing: Why we shout in anger

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked.

'Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout.' 

'But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.' asked the saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.

Finally the saint explained, .

'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance. 

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small...'

The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

He looked at his disciples and said...

'So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return. They may end up in divorce courts, for instance.'

From Mrs to Mommy : Hooray! Halfway through my pregnancy

First love letter for his daddy...


So now we are waiting for our second baby-moon to Jakarta.... Yeay!
xOxO

Sharing: Hello Happiness by Ajahn Brahm

weTalk: #10 Tarepanda-ing baby

Surprisingly lil one Baby S knows how to rolling inside my belly but not kicking yet lol...

On 20th Aug 2013 around 11 pm...
me: I'm going to sleep now...come come...kiss kiss

*He came towards me and gv me a kiss and then talked to Baby S*

Mr.Ng: Baby, don't be notty a... grow up faster, listen to mommy daddy, be filial, when you grow up be a handsome yet smart boy... Ok, now it's time for you to sleep le... so good night, daddy love you...
*muachhh*

me: good night little dear dear...love you *rub my baby bump*

Suddenly, I can feel his move

me: Dear, baby is moving le...

Mr.Ng: Really? hahaha....

me: yah...maybe because he heard your voice hehe...

*rub baby bump*

me: ok....go to sleep liao ya...wan an baby

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22nd Aug 2013, while waiting for him to come to Ang Mo Kio, his sister's home.

*whatsapp...*

me: wru?

Mr.Ng: mrt...

me: seems like baby is tarepanda-ing inside 

Mr.Ng: How he tarepanda-ing?

me: dunno le...can feel his move lol... just now feel dizzy a lil bit...siao liao dunno what happen to me ;(

Mr.Ng: Then don't walk 1st. Stop then wait a while, then look for a place to rest. Probably you have not used to it. Since baby is growing a few micrometer everyday. Wru now?

me: on the way to Sis's house

Mr.Ng: I think sis haven't reached yet. You sitting in the garden there a?

me: Yes... talking to my tarepanda-ing baby lol

Mr.Ng: Lol...I'm coming soon dear. See you shortly

*another 15mins*

me: got tikussss (mouse)

Mr.Ng: Lol, it's ok. it's my friend go there to protect you. So he make some noise so that other insect or animal dare not come nearby loh. Tips for survival...

me: shit...don't want...afraid le... hate tikus...

Mr.Ng: they won't bite one. wru?

me: move near lift...don't want... super scary le...siao liao (crazy)... just now he made a noise "shrek shrek shrek" so I aware... If not he suddenly jump to me then I faint liao

Sharing: Bad Luck? Good Luck? Who knows...Future is uncertain

An old farmer used a horse to till his fields. One day the horse ran away, and when the farmer’s neighbours sympathized with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer shrugged his shoulders and replied: “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”

A week later the horse returned with a herd of wild mares,and this time the neighbours congratulated the farmer on his good luck. His reply was: “Good luck? Bad Luck? Who knows?”

Then, when the farmer’s son was attempting to tame on of the wild horses, he fell and broke his leg. Everyone agreed this was very bad luck. But the farmer’s only reaction was: “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”

A week later, the army marched into the village and drafted all the young men they could find. When they saw the farmer’s son with his broken leg, they let him stay behind. Good luck? Bad luck?

As you see, we can never know. Future is uncertain...

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Recipe : Bird's Nest soup (燕窝)

Hulla... Now I'm taking 2 spoons of bird's nest soup every midnight until I deliver this lil one :).

Bird's nests (燕窝)

What is bird's nest soup?

- It is a traditional (like hundred of years) pricey Chinese delicacy although they are only swallow's saliva nests. They are expensive due to the difficulty in harvesting. Bird's nest is very rich in nutrients as it contains the digested food of swallows and they are formed using their saliva.

What is the benefit?

- help to stimulate appetite and aids in digestion

- contains of several proteins and minerals that help develop the generation and growth of human cells

- rejuvenates the human skin, smooth the skin and maintain eternal beauty

- increases the immune system

- contains of the epidermal growth factor

- can alleviate tiredness, relieve spiritual pressure and recover body strength

- good for asthma and who are always catching the cold or flu

- good for smoker as well as it can help to cleanse and rid the lungs of pollutants and toxins

Benefit for pregnant lady (only drink it after 5 months until deliver)

- help to develop baby's smooth skin 

[proved by my mom, cause my mom drank a lot of bird's nest soup while she was pregnant me. Now, I have a really good and smooth skin , pinky cheeks, and fair skin (thanks to my mom hehe) - FYI, I never use any blush on and I rarely have pimples :) ]

- boost the immune system for both mom and baby

This is me without make-up :P

When and what is the right portion to eat bird nest soup?

- Bird's nest soup best consume everyday in small portion ( 2 spoons), rather than eat it in big portion once. By doing so, the body can fully utilised (absorb) the bird nest.

- Eat it in the middle of the night or early morning with empty stomach

Our small portion of bird's nest every night :)

Where to get it?

- Indonesia is the largest supplier of Bird's nests in the world. I got mine from my hubby hahaha...cause he also sell it so lucky me :)

How to cook?

• Dry yen-wo ( Soak the bird's nest in cold water about half an hour until softened. Usually I will still try to find is there any impurities such as debris and feathers inside, pluck them out using kitchen tweezers)
• Water ( you can put more water if you like to drink it)
• red dates ( pluck out the inside little seeds)
• goji
• rock sugar

1. Clean all the ingredients, drain the bird's nets
2. Mix all the ingredients and the bird nest inside a big bowl
3. Double boil it for about half an hour ( I use electric double boilers, so I only need not more than half an hour to cook it)
4. After cooked, let it cool down and keep it inside the fridge

Also read here to get the details benefit of above Chinese herbs

Sharing: Marriage Advice : Another love letter for Marriage guy

Worth to read...

weTalk: #9 Mommy or Mummy?

One Sunday night when Mr.Ng still on his way back to Singapore from JohorBahru with his family n friends while I just went back from Natas Fair and felt super exhausted...

*texting*

me: wru? (texting him while in MRT)

*he suddenly called me*

Mr.Ng: Dear, We are still in Taman Sentosa. Where are you now? Home yet?

me: Not yet, still in MRT

Mr.Ng: OK, We are going home soon. Afraid it will be trafficjam in custom, so you go sleep first. Don't wait for me okay. Are you okay? tired today?

me: Ya...I'm so tired. Okay..then be careful a...

Mr.Ng: Ok Ok..so see u soon at home :)

*Reached home, bathed and text him*

me: Dear, I'm home le...

Mr.Ng: Ok.. you sleep first ya... Here traffic jam, just now Sis was being trapped in traffic for 3 hours... =.=! Soon will b home liao ok... Lope lope dearrr

*After he reached Singapore customs and whatsapp me*

Mr.Ng: Sleep yet?

me: almost... dear, be careful when you drive back a... don't rush ok

Mr.Ng: Just reached Singapore. Going to pee soon...Horrible traffic

me: hahahha ok ok....

Mr.Ng: Mlaysia stuckkk

me: use rubber band la hahahahha

Mr.Ng: Rubber band for?

me: tie it up cause you said you want to pee mah

Mr.Ng: Lol

me: OK, I sleep first

Mr.Ng: Ok, wan an

me: lope lope daddy :D

Mr.Ng: Lope loppy mummy

me: mommy or mummy?

Mr.Ng: Same same

me: Lol

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Now I Know...
- Mom and mommy is American/Canadian
- Mum and mummy is British/Aussie
And also mummy is a preserved human...so I think I will use Mommy instead of Mummy so my kids won't confuse lol...

Sharing: Mother's Love- Baby Panda Reunites With Mom

Sharing: Vietnam Seeds of fresh-water Lotus flower

We went to Ho Chi Minh, Vietnam last May 2013, and the first thing my mom's friend told her to buy was their Lotus Seed. And we never know about it until mom's friend mentioned it LOL. So that's the first thing mom was looking for while we were in Ben Thanh Market hehe...

Unfriendly weather when we went there, super HOT.... You can see everyone was holding a fan inside the market. I know the Vietnamese seller try to be friendly whenever they introduce us their products, but please I don't like the way they hold your hand ( and sometimes won't let it go..wth), touch your shoulder...OMG.... Please...I was very hot and sweating like shit (especially for preggy woman, your body temperature will be warmer) and they just easily tap here tap there , tap on your hand or shoulder... MOZARELLLLLLA....Haizzzz

Ok enough for the complain...OK back to our lotus seed's topic

This lotus seed tastes really nice, crunchy and tasty... more like nuts. I never thought about its benefit until I went google on it. And surprisingly, this little seed has a lot of medical values... *Woohooo*

What is Lotus seeds?

Lotus seed (lianzi) was a seed from lotus flower ( a fresh-water plant that grows in semitropical climates). Lotus seeds are valued for nutritional and healing properties in Chinese medicine, and also are used in many recipes for cooking.

These small seeds are found inside the seed pods of lotus which each pod contains an average of 20 seeds which each seed being surrounded by a shell. The fresh seeds are green and will turning to cream or yellow color when dried.

The benefit of lotus seeds:

• good source of protein, magnesium, potassium and phosphorus.
• low in saturated fat, sodium and cholesterol
• contain the anti-aging enzyme L-isoaspartyl menthyltransferase that can help to repair damaged proteins ( source: Kushi Institute, a macrobiotic website)
• contains kaempferol, which can helps repair aging gum tissue ( source: Water Gardeners International website)
• restore vital energy within the body
• good for kidney, spleen and heart
• alleviate and can fight chronic diarrhea
• good to treat insomnia and calming effects ( especially the benefits of the bitter heart of lotus seed)

Side effects:

Currently, there's still no side effects of consuming these seeds, except for allergic reactions to some people.

Warning to patients who are undergoing treatment like diabetes, cholesterol and cardiac or psychiatric conditions and pregnant woman should avoid consuming these seeds.

My Lil Store: Gold Plated Accessories

Recipe: Homemade Durian Pancake/Crepe

Knock...knock...It's a Durian Season Now... Durian is everywhere...*wooohoooo*.

Let's make our own Homemade Durian Pancake at home. In my hometown, Medan, the price is quite pricey...for 1 "small" (when I say small, it is really smallllll.... damn it) pancake costs at least Rp8,000 (SGD1.00). [FYI: Nasi campur (main couse) only costs about Rp5.000/pack in my howetown, so let's you do your own comparison lol]

For Crepe:

• 70gr all purposes flour
• 10gr cornstarch
• 40gr castor sugar
• 250gr milk
• 20gr salted butter
• 2 eggs yolk  

For fillings

• Durian flesh ( you may substitute mango for durian)
• 150ml fresh cream- whipped until soft peak forms

For Crepe:

1. Melt the butter together with half of the milk + sugar 
2. Set aside from the stove, pour the egg yolk inside and whisk to mix well
3. Sieve all the dry ingredients in other bowl, and pour the wet ingredients inside. Mix... mix...mix well
4. Cover the batter and stand for at least 1 hour
5. Pour a scoop of the batter in the centre of the non-stick pan ( do not add oil) and move the pan around the batter to coat the side
6. Once the colour changed and batter turn hard, crepe is ready and remove it immediately. You don't need to flip it, just fry for one side only.

How to prepare the Homemade durian pancake:

1. Add 1 tbsp whipped cream in the centre of the crepe, and followed by durian flesh on the top ( or you can mix the whipped cream together with the durian flesh in other bowl)
2. Wrap the crepe gently and store in fridge for better taste. Enjoy your Homemade Durian pancake :)

Sharing: Marriage Advice : A letter for all husband

Found this in facebook...hope you enjoy...

A letter for all husband...

Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had...

1) Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5) IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7) NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

Allow your woman to JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9) BE SILLY… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10) FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11) BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12) BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

13) DON’T BE AN IDIOT…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

14) GIVE HER SPACE… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

15) BE VULNERABLE… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16) BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don't know i she will like what she finds... Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

17) NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

18) DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.

Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late.

But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.

The woman that told him 'I do', and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up.

If you are reading this and your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time.

MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE : Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you.

weTalk: #8 Drooling

One silent night when I slept happily and soundly while Mr.Ng still watching his TV Series

* Suddenly I wake up and turn to Mr.Ng*

Mr.Ng: What happen?!? Why you suddenly wake up? Nightmare?

me: *shyly smiling* I was drooling...

Mr.Ng: HAHAHAHA...It's ok la

me: Usually I won't one...but nowadays seems like it happen all night. Must be baby's fault..huh

Mr.Ng: Hahahaha...It's ok... go sleep now... * sayang and kiss my forehead*

I must be like that... LOL

Myday: Our little prayer

Dear Mr.Ng,

This is our lil prayer everyday to see you come home safe and sound

From,
Lil One and your keypo dear dear ♥♥♥