Sharing: Why we shout in anger

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked.

'Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout.' 

'But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.' asked the saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.

Finally the saint explained, .

'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance. 

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small...'

The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

He looked at his disciples and said...

'So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return. They may end up in divorce courts, for instance.'

Sharing: Marriage Advice : Another love letter for Marriage guy

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Sharing: Marriage Advice : A letter for all husband

Found this in facebook...hope you enjoy...

A letter for all husband...

Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had...

1) Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5) IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7) NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

Allow your woman to JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9) BE SILLY… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10) FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11) BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12) BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

13) DON’T BE AN IDIOT…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

14) GIVE HER SPACE… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

15) BE VULNERABLE… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16) BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don't know i she will like what she finds... Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

17) NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

18) DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.

Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late.

But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.

The woman that told him 'I do', and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up.

If you are reading this and your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time.

MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE : Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you.

Sharing: Qi Xi Festival 七夕節

Hulla...today is 13.08.13 (wow I like the number lol) which also the seventh day of the 7th lunar month (Double Seventh Festival), known as the Qixi Festival. It's a Chinese Valentine's Day ♥♥♥

This love story has been told again and again when I was a child. My mom used to tell us the story...

One evening, seven daughter of Goddess who are bored, had just escaped from heaven to look for fun. 

Niulang was a poor orphan cowherd who live together with his only friend old magical cow. The magical cow told him of a way to find a beautiful wife so they went to the riverside on that evening, where the seven fairies were having bath (perverrttttt.... >.<)

He took one of the beautiful silk dresses that the fairies had left on the bank. When the fairies finished their bath, the youngest fairy ( Zhi Nu 织女) couldn't find her clothes and had to see her sisters fly back to heaven without her. Suddenly this Niulang came out with the dress and asked Zhi Nu to stay with him. (Notty Niulang...ck ck ck... Zhi Nu bo huat so need to stay with him hmm...)

As you know several years on Earth is equivalent to only few days in heaven. On Earth, Niulang ang Zhi Nu lived happily with their two children. Zhi Nu proved to be a wonderful wife, and Niulang to be a good husband. But the Goddess of Heaven ( Wang Mu Niang-niang 王母娘娘) found out Zhi Nu's absence. She was so annoyed she had Zhi Nu brought back to heaven. Seeing his beloved wife flying in the sky, Niulang was terrified. He grabbed the cowhide that hanging on the wall.( The magical cow had told him before dying of old age: "Keep the cowhide for emergency use")

Putting the cowhide on, he went after his wife along with two children. The Goddess of Heaven suddenly showed up and pulled off her hairpin to draw a line between the two. The line become the Silver River in heaven (milky way). Sadly, Zhi Nu went back to the heavenly workshop, weaving the clouds. All the clouds that she weaved seemed sad. The Goddess of Heaven, decided to let them unite once on the seventh day of the seventh month as she was touched by their love for each other.

In China, this festival is quite important especially for single women who wish for her own Prince Charming to enter her life. But in by-gone days, this festival is also known as the "Begging for Skills Festival" or "Daughter's Festival"

In the past, single women or young girl would conduct a ceremony to beg Zhi Nu for wisdom, dexterity and a satisfying marriage. They offered fruits and pastries, if spiders were seen to weave webs on sacrificial objects, it was believed Zhi Nu was offering positive feedback. 

People say that on this day it will rain, because of the crying in heaven.(surprisingly here was raining this morning and gloomy the whole day ). Others say that if you stand under grapevines on that night, you can hear the lovers talking ( are you sure?? lover's talking or "brothers' talking"as it's still a hungry ghost month...creepy...)

Check out the google game...so cute

Anyway, Happy Chinese Valentines Day ♥♥♥

~will tell this story tonight to my lil one since he can hear me now hehe :)

Sharing: The story of monkey and the kitten

 

Should I explain anything here? Let’s the pictures tell you everything…(really love the expression between them and this is what a photographer should do). A wild-long tailed macaque monkey has adopted an abandoned kitten at Ubud's Monkey Forest in Bali, thanks to Anne Young who captured these perfect moments:D

Sharing : Simple way to forget that “damn”- Ex

A super duper very common if you broke up with someone you love before. Sad, confuse, stress, miserable, cry, what else? Well…as I said before, nothing is wrong with that. But let’s think is it worth and OK for you just to cry and cry again or maybe spend all your days to think about the reason why you guys broke up? Well, easy to say hard to do …eniwei….let’s have ice cream instead :P..haha..just joking..ok here’s some tips

1. NEVER EVER listening to sad songs

They will make you feel worst and well honey, you are in a super fragile soul and absolutely sad/ mellow songs will just make you more down and down…So why don’t you try to switch to some disco or let’s call it Happy songs…something that can burn your spirit :D

2. Sharing is caring

Well, girls love to talk either we are happy or sad. So express yourself, don’t keep them all for yourself (you will explode for overload :P). But only share them with someone you trust, mum and sister will be my first option for sharing my dilemma :) and usually it works. Feel much more better after I told them everything (just call me talkative :D). And keep in mind that they maybe won’t give us any advices but trust me the feeling of someone are still there and standing for you are much more better and you will feel secure because of them :)

3. Throw, burn, torn everything about him

Charity them, give them to next owner as you didn’t need them anymore. Well, maybe you will feel very bad or maybe in tears while thrown them (not because of him, but because it’s expensive hahah LOL), but it really help you to stay away from the memory of him

4. Never ever call him – not even once

Please please don’t do this…you go girl…and erase them from your contact list :)

5. Make over yourself and retouching

Do something with yourself, pamper yourself as you haven’t done it to yourself. Love yourself more. You don’t need to do surgery to make you become a new people haha…at least maybe you can do some make-up, facial, manicure, pedicure, get a new hairstyle. Or you also can enroll to some courses to get more skills for yourself, at least you should make him feel bad because he left you :D. By doing this, I am sure that you will feel more confident and you now have to show to the world and yourself that you are a strong woman even without him. ~ power puff girl go go!!~

6. Do girls’ things with your girlfriends

Shopping, eating,ladies night,etc etc.. just do whatever you want to yourself, but please keep in mind to set a limit and stop them after you have reached your limit. Well, these all are quite risky activity but have fun :D

7. Open your heart

Well…well…well.. hahaha….can I laugh to myself…hmm…ok …start a new relationship actually is not that difficult so it’s our time for hunting a new one and bare in mind that you will get an opportunity to get another better relationship~add oil add oil~

Note: Ice cream is a best friend when you felt mellow :P

Sharing : I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart

Found this story from facebook and it is worth to read and share. Is it really that in this world, there’s no more happy-ending-story(just like what they said on ‘the enchanted’ movie)? Seems like marriage and divorce just way too easy to say out this day. Hope we all can learn something from this story :)

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When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

Article : 5 Reasons to skip the Diamond engagement ring

Haha…one of my friend linked this article in facebook and it just catch my eyes. Too sorry to not to share with you all :P. Absolutely this article is written by a man haha…no offense…anyway what he said here are all truth unless you have extra money and you can easily afford it, why not. If not, don’t force yourself as we can invest them in more useful things (although me myself as a girl love luxury jewelry haha) so enjoy this article…

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You're ready. You have the entire scene planned out in your head, every detail plotted and mapped until it's perfect. At the climax of this mini-drama, he will bend on one knee and present to you a beautiful diamond ring -- or, if you're the one proposing, you will watch as her expression changes from surprise to utter delight when she sees the ring. And that's when you'll know: Yes, you're getting married.

Or so the diamond industry would like you to believe. The sole purpose of this appealing fantasy is to drum up sales. Once you look past the mythos of the diamond engagement ring, you'll see that it's not much more than a shiny rock.  Here are five good reasons to skip the diamond engagement ring.

1. It isn't an ancient tradition -- just marketing. For all intents and purposes, "A Diamond is Forever" and the idea of a diamond engagement ring is Sprite's "Obey Your Thirst" and Nike's "Just Do It." It is Gary Dahl's "Pet Rock." De Beers controlled supply by buying up and closing down any diamond mine discovered, and they controlled demand by making it sentimental. Although the campaign is less than 70 years old, it has made the diamond engagement ring the ultimate symbol of how much the relationship, the girl, and love itself is worth.

2. Diamonds are rare! Or not. It's true, diamonds are abundant. For generations, De Beers had stockpiled most of the world's diamond supply and effectively monopolized the industry. Their dominance has weakened over the last decade, but De Beers and its competitors still control the supply of diamonds entering the market. While most gems are valued based on their rarity, diamonds are different. Their scarcity is artificial -- and so is their value.

3. Other options look just as impressive and cost much less. Moissanite looks just like a diamond; the difference is undetectable with the naked eye. In fact, moissanite is actually more brilliant. If, for whatever reason, you're stuck on the diamond ring idea, synthetic or "cultured" diamonds are the real deal. They're made in a machine that replicates the environmental forces that make diamonds. They're real diamonds, only with less flaws. A synthetic 2-carat pink diamond costs just a few thousand dollars, and a 1-carat moissanite ring is under $1000.

4. You can invest in something more meaningful/useful/fun than a piece of jewelry. Many women simply enjoy having a beautiful collection -- and that's fine (if you can afford it). For most people, though, a diamond engagement ring is fun to show off for about 30 seconds. But it's special, right? Because it marks your engagement and symbolizes your love? Remember, that's De Beers's marketing campaign talking. Three-plus months' salary would be better spent on furnishing your home, an amazing trip, or your future kids' college funds!

5. It's hard to get around the ethical issues surrounding the diamond industry. Terrorist groups use conflict/blood diamonds to finance their activities. Rebel groups use them to fuel conflict and civil wars. In these conflict zones, children are being used as soldiers. The Kimberley Process is an agreement that was established to prevent conflict diamonds from getting into the market, but the self-policing system is far from perfect. One way to fool the Kimberley Process is to smuggle and mix conflict diamonds with legally traded ones before being certified -- and you, the buyer, would be none the wiser.

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Sharing : Renews marriage vows on their 72 years anniversary

“May this day shine eternally in your lives.
May it add brilliance to every achievement and cast a divine light over any misfortune.
May you care for each other in all sadness.
May you give cheer to each other.
May you give vitality to each other in all undertakings.
May all that is virtuous, beautiful and honest, remain with you always”

A wish from a dying man, Vernon McAlister,to renew his wedding vows with his 72 years beloved wife, Sue. (ooo…so romantic). A simple ceremony has been held at Hospice of Upstate in Anderson Country, South Carolina, USA.

After having a dream that his wife wanted to marry him again, Mr McAlister asked the nurses to help him stay alive a few more days so they could celebrate their 72nd anniversary together.

Mr McAlister broke his hip three weeks ago and doctors expect him to live just a few more days. They married when he was 20 (now 93) and she was 15( now 87) and they first met when they worked on Vernon’s father’s farm in South Carolina.

'My father told me she would make a good wife,' he said.

'I couldn’t have imagined how right he was. She is just purely wonderful. She is a jewel.' (ooo..so sweet :)

Two years ago Sue survived a battle with stomach cancer and credits her husband's support as crucial.

Mrs McAlister said: 'He has taken care of me my whole life.'

'He has loved me and respected me and cherished me the way he said he would when I was just a young girl and he was just a young man.

'There is nothing to be nervous about when you are walking toward the person you love with your whole heart.'

Mr McAlister is a retired agronomist and the couple have five children together.

Their sons Tony, Phil, Van and Don McAlister and daughter Anita Floyd were all present at the ceremony.

'They are a testament to love,' said Floyd.

The ceremony was conducted by family friend Bill French who told the couple they were an example to the world.

'When you took those vows all those years ago no one could have known how long that walk together would be,' said Mr French.

'You have fulfilled your promise and God is smiling.'

It is very rare to see young people to do such commitment. Divorce and marriage seems like a very common things now ( I’m a young people:P, I wish to have an eternal love like they do, still hold hand in hand together on our old time :)

This story just remind me of my grandpa en grandma…they love each other as well until their last day :)

“Although death cannot tear them apart…
Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy…”

~another sweet love story…~

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Still in love after 80 years - so sweetttt...

They met as five-year-old schoolchildren in 1929 and have been together almost constantly ever since.

~ A lovely couple who live happily ever after just like a fairytale~

But in a union that has spanned nine decades and survived the Second World War, Jim Hadwin and his wife Moira have managed to avoid a single row.

Retired firefighter Jim, 85, said: 'We have all been rock-solid since the very first day, we always knew it was going to last.
'We have spent our lives together but I wouldn't change a thing. We still make each other laugh and we are still grateful to have spent our lives together.

'We are very similar but we argue like any couple but we get on tremendously and we know it would be silly to fall out over silly things.

'Moira is a very reasonable, patient person and it doesn't bear thinking about what my life would be like if I hadn't met Moira.
'Every day has been lovely with Moira, I wouldn't change a thing.'

After spending two years in the same class at Kings Street School, Spennymoor, County Durham, Moira was moved to a nearby girl's school separating her from her future husband for one of the only times in her life.

The devoted pair were re-united aged 11, when fate threw them back together in the same class at Oldham and Wraith Grammar School, much to Jim's delight.

Jim said: 'We were in the same class until we were seven and I remember being very disappointed when she moved.

'It was only a small place so I still saw her but I preferred it when she was in my class.
'I could tell then that she was a wonderful person and I always thought she was very pretty.'

Jim took three years to muster up the courage to make Moira his girlfriend, the pair eventually beginning their life-long courtship when they turned 14.

Retired fireman Jim added: 'We were back in the same class and from then on we were inseparable.
'We started courting at 14 when I took her home to meet my parents after the school Christmas party.
'I remember having butterflies in my stomach and feeling on top of the world when we started courting.
'In those days it was very different to how it is now, there was no cavorting and gentleman had to behave a certain way, but even knowing we were together made me very happy.'

Jim left school at 17 to enter the Police Cadet service, while Moira remained at school with her eye on attending university.
When war tore Europe apart, newly-signed-up Marine Jim was sent across Europe and Moira re-located to a munitions factory in Cambridge.

But even with Jim hundreds of miles away in Belgium, Holland and Germany, Moira was always at his side.
Before he departed he was given three pictures of Moira, one for each of the main pockets of his uniform to protect him from a hail of German bullets.

Brave Jim added: 'They were the best good luck charms imaginable because I didn't get shot, so they must have worked.
'It was terrible for us to be apart but we wrote and I saw her once or twice when I was close enough to Britain to get back, but otherwise all I had were the pictures of her.

'The war was a very hard time for everyone but we survived it, we were each other's rocks even though we were miles apart.'

Just over two years after the end of the war in the summer of 1948 the couple were married at St Paul's Church, Spennymoor.
They settled into their new careers as fireman and a secretary respectively.

Jim's work saw the pair relocate from Newcastle to Poole, Dorset, where he worked as station manager before retiring in 1976.
Since then they have both retired to spend their days by the seaside in Weymouth and despite spending their whole lives together, Jim insists they still love each other's company.

With such a strong relationship behind them Jim and Moira, also 85, who decided against having children, are experts in making a marriage work and claim a shift in attitudes is to blame for Britain's divorce culture.

'I think it is all too easy for people these days to give up on marriages and relationships,' said Jim.
'It is too easy to get divorced. You have ups and downs in any relationship but you have to work through them and take the good with the bad.
'People seem to think that marriage is a commitment they can get out of if they want but if you care enough to get married in the first place you should work to make it last.'

Jim also has two golden rules for any newly-married men to ensure a long and happy marriage.
He added: 'We have lasted so long because I was brought up to earn the money and provide for my wife.
'But the important thing for any husband is to remember that once you've earned your money, you have to give it to your wife so she can spend it.'

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